Are You a Bia-Bia?
Yes, it's another post intended to help us females understand the males species. Of course, as one male blogger pointed out to me in a prior post, some of these examples may be applied to the female species as well. Touche, C...thanks for visiting ;)
My friend B shared this with me via e-mail. Sherry Argov is the author of the book “Why Men Love Bitches.” She interviewed hundreds of men to compile this list. The original list consisted of 100 reasons why ment love bitches, but I cut it down to 50 for a more succinct post. Check out her book for the complete version. I learned alot about myself reading this list, and what NOT to do. Gahhhhh, I had it all wrong. Guess I'll have to start thinking like a man....NOT.
1.Anything a person chases in life runs away.
2.The women who have the men climbing the walls for them aren’t always exceptional. Often, they are the ones who don’t appear to care that much.
3.Sometimes a man deliberately won’t call, just to see how you’ll respond.
4.If you start out dependent, it turns him off. But if it is something he can’t have, it becomes more of a challenge for him to get it.
5.It is your attitude about yourself that a man will adopt.
6.Act like a prize and you’ll turn him into a believer.
7.When a woman doesn’t give in easily and doesn’t appear docile or submissive, it becomes more stimulating to obtain her.
8.If you smother him, he’ll go into defense mode and look for an escape route to protect his freedom.
9.A bitch gives a man plenty of space so he doesn’t fear being trapped in a cage. Then….he sets out to trap her in his.
10.If you tell him you are not interested in jumping into a relationship with both feet, he will set out to try to change your mind.
11.Always give the appearance that he has plenty of space. It gets him to drop his guard.
12.More than anything else, he watches to see if you’ll be too emotionally dependent on him.
13.He must feel that you choose to be with him, not that you need to be with him. Only then will he perceive you as an equal partner.
14.If a man has to wait before he sleeps with a woman, he’ll not only perceive her as more beautiful, he’ll also take time to appreciate who she is.
15.Sex and the “spark” are not one and the same.
16.Before sex, a man isn’t thinking clearly and a woman is thinking clearly. After sex, it reverses. The man is thinking clearly and the woman isn’t.
17.If he makes you feel insecure, let your insecurity be your guide.
18.Any time a woman competes with another woman, she demeans herself.
19.Let him think he’s in control. He’ll automatically start doing things you want done because he’ll always want to look like “a king” in your eyes.
20.When you cater to his ego in a soft way, he doesn’t try to get power in an aggressive way.
21.When you appear softer and more feminine, you appeal to his instinct to protect. When you appear more aggressive, you appeal to his instinct to compete.
22.If you give him a feeling of power, he’ll want to protect you and he’ll want to give you the world.
23.When a woman acts as though she’s capable of everything, she gets stuck doing everything.
24.Men don’t respond to words. They respond to no contact.
25.Men respect women who communicate in a succinct way, because it’s the language men use to talk to one another.
26.When you are always HAPPY; And he is always free to GO; He feels LUCKY.
27.Most women are starving to receive something from a man that they need to give to themselves.
28.Jumping through hoops often has a negative outcome: He sees it as an opportunity to have his cake and eat it, too. But when you stay just outside his reach, he’ll stay on his best behavior.
29.The nice girl gives away too much of herself when pleasing him regularly becomes more important than pleasing herself.
30.When you nag, he tunes you out. But when you speak with your actions, he pays attention.
31.Negative attention is still attention. It lets a man know that he has you---right where he wants you.
32.A little distance combined with the appearance of self-control makes him nervous that he may be losing you.
33.When you nag, he sees weakness.
34.He perceives an emotional woman as more of a pushover.
35.In the same way that familiarity breeds contempt, a slightly aloof demeanor can often renew his respect.
36.He’ll forget what he has in you …unless you remind him.
37.Men treat women the way they treat other men. They “play it cool” because they don’t want to appear weak or desperate.
38.The element of surprise both inside and outside of the bedroom is important to men, and it adds to the excitement.
39.Don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself or speak your mind. It will not only earn his respect, in some cases it will even turn him on.
40.Men often automatically assume that a bitchier woman will be more assertive in bed, and that a nice girl will be more timid.
41.You have to show that you won’t accept mistreatment. Then you will keep his respect.
42.The ability to choose how you want to live, and the ability to choose how you want to be treated are the two things that give you more power than any material object ever will.
43.In a relationship of any kind, if one person feels the other person isn’t bringing anything to the table, he or she will being to disrespect that person.
44.The more independent you are of him, the more interested he will be.
45.Don’t give a reward for bad behavior.
46.Once you start laughing, you start healing.
47.Be an independent thinker at all times, and ignore anyone who attempts to define you in a limiting way.
48.Truly powerful people don’t explain why they want respect. They simply don’t engage someone who doesn’t give it to them.
My friend B shared this with me via e-mail. Sherry Argov is the author of the book “Why Men Love Bitches.” She interviewed hundreds of men to compile this list. The original list consisted of 100 reasons why ment love bitches, but I cut it down to 50 for a more succinct post. Check out her book for the complete version. I learned alot about myself reading this list, and what NOT to do. Gahhhhh, I had it all wrong. Guess I'll have to start thinking like a man....NOT.
1.Anything a person chases in life runs away.
2.The women who have the men climbing the walls for them aren’t always exceptional. Often, they are the ones who don’t appear to care that much.
3.Sometimes a man deliberately won’t call, just to see how you’ll respond.
4.If you start out dependent, it turns him off. But if it is something he can’t have, it becomes more of a challenge for him to get it.
5.It is your attitude about yourself that a man will adopt.
6.Act like a prize and you’ll turn him into a believer.
7.When a woman doesn’t give in easily and doesn’t appear docile or submissive, it becomes more stimulating to obtain her.
8.If you smother him, he’ll go into defense mode and look for an escape route to protect his freedom.
9.A bitch gives a man plenty of space so he doesn’t fear being trapped in a cage. Then….he sets out to trap her in his.
10.If you tell him you are not interested in jumping into a relationship with both feet, he will set out to try to change your mind.
11.Always give the appearance that he has plenty of space. It gets him to drop his guard.
12.More than anything else, he watches to see if you’ll be too emotionally dependent on him.
13.He must feel that you choose to be with him, not that you need to be with him. Only then will he perceive you as an equal partner.
14.If a man has to wait before he sleeps with a woman, he’ll not only perceive her as more beautiful, he’ll also take time to appreciate who she is.
15.Sex and the “spark” are not one and the same.
16.Before sex, a man isn’t thinking clearly and a woman is thinking clearly. After sex, it reverses. The man is thinking clearly and the woman isn’t.
17.If he makes you feel insecure, let your insecurity be your guide.
18.Any time a woman competes with another woman, she demeans herself.
19.Let him think he’s in control. He’ll automatically start doing things you want done because he’ll always want to look like “a king” in your eyes.
20.When you cater to his ego in a soft way, he doesn’t try to get power in an aggressive way.
21.When you appear softer and more feminine, you appeal to his instinct to protect. When you appear more aggressive, you appeal to his instinct to compete.
22.If you give him a feeling of power, he’ll want to protect you and he’ll want to give you the world.
23.When a woman acts as though she’s capable of everything, she gets stuck doing everything.
24.Men don’t respond to words. They respond to no contact.
25.Men respect women who communicate in a succinct way, because it’s the language men use to talk to one another.
26.When you are always HAPPY; And he is always free to GO; He feels LUCKY.
27.Most women are starving to receive something from a man that they need to give to themselves.
28.Jumping through hoops often has a negative outcome: He sees it as an opportunity to have his cake and eat it, too. But when you stay just outside his reach, he’ll stay on his best behavior.
29.The nice girl gives away too much of herself when pleasing him regularly becomes more important than pleasing herself.
30.When you nag, he tunes you out. But when you speak with your actions, he pays attention.
31.Negative attention is still attention. It lets a man know that he has you---right where he wants you.
32.A little distance combined with the appearance of self-control makes him nervous that he may be losing you.
33.When you nag, he sees weakness.
34.He perceives an emotional woman as more of a pushover.
35.In the same way that familiarity breeds contempt, a slightly aloof demeanor can often renew his respect.
36.He’ll forget what he has in you …unless you remind him.
37.Men treat women the way they treat other men. They “play it cool” because they don’t want to appear weak or desperate.
38.The element of surprise both inside and outside of the bedroom is important to men, and it adds to the excitement.
39.Don’t be afraid to stand up for yourself or speak your mind. It will not only earn his respect, in some cases it will even turn him on.
40.Men often automatically assume that a bitchier woman will be more assertive in bed, and that a nice girl will be more timid.
41.You have to show that you won’t accept mistreatment. Then you will keep his respect.
42.The ability to choose how you want to live, and the ability to choose how you want to be treated are the two things that give you more power than any material object ever will.
43.In a relationship of any kind, if one person feels the other person isn’t bringing anything to the table, he or she will being to disrespect that person.
44.The more independent you are of him, the more interested he will be.
45.Don’t give a reward for bad behavior.
46.Once you start laughing, you start healing.
47.Be an independent thinker at all times, and ignore anyone who attempts to define you in a limiting way.
48.Truly powerful people don’t explain why they want respect. They simply don’t engage someone who doesn’t give it to them.
49. You can get away with saying much more with humor than you can with a straight face.
50.The most attractive quality of all is dignity.
posted by Reality Chick at 7:36 AM
5 Comments:
"Be an independent thinker at all times, and ignore anyone who attempts to define you in a limiting way."
Unfortunately my sister fell victim to this one. I hope as she gets a little older she'll realize how important it is to have her own opinions.
#27, #36, and #42--triple AMEN! Good list!
Oh wow, this is a great list and so TRUE!!
Thanks for the great info. Now I understand the women psyche a little better and can use that to my advantage! haha. Just kidding.
Truly powerful people don’t explain why they want respect. They simply don’t engage someone who doesn’t give it to them.
That one stood out for me, thou I would probably replace "powerful" with "self-respecting".
Cool read!
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